As humans, it is only but normal that we all fall in love at one point or another and probably end up in a fruitful relationship because we are created to love. We all have different things to say about how we love and want to love, we try to reason love as a logic that can be explained, but the truth is love finds us at different places and space in time.
For any relationship to work out well and be fruitful, the parties involved must be willing to put their backs into it because it takes an indifferent attitude from one partner for a relationship to come crashing.
Therefore, there should be a mutual feeling of love and respect in every to be fruitful relationship.
Statistics has shown that women are usually at the receiving end for most failed relationships. They come out of such failed relationship and start to torture themselves with questions such as “maybe I was not good enough for him, I didn’t study him to understand what he wanted, and or I did not satisfy him as he wanted” and a whole lot of questions to mention but a few.
Well if you have been asking yourself this series of questions, then this article is for you because it seeks to show you practical ways to make your relationship a fruitful one and at the end of the day, true love would win and you would have your man wanting you and you alone.
Below are some well thought of practical ways to build a fruitful relationship today.
LEARNING TO LOVE YOURSELF CAN TURN OUT TO BE THE KEY TO A FRUITFUL RELATIONSHIP
Love as we all know requires us to show care and affection towards our partner, but how can we care and show affection for someone else when we can’t do same for ourselves. Before you can love another, first of all learn to love yourself, learn to love your flaws, learn to love your body, learn to think of ways to make yourself happy, learn to be your own hero in your story, amongst other things.
And if you feel there is something about you which you are uncomfortable with, work on it so it doesn’t end up becoming a part of you which causes you to hate yourself.
The human mind is a very powerful tool which if not put in control, tends to analyze situations in various ways unconsciously.
Having been in previous relationships, it is only but normal for the mind to analyze various occurrences in a recent relationship in correlation with a previous one.
This can make you to begin to see things in a different light, like seeing his outburst as a sign of not wanting the relationship anymore or him seeing someone else or seeing his loss of interest in sex as him trying to pass a message that he doesn’t find you attractive anymore. So for a fruitful relationship to be achieved, move with the flow.
If you can’t place your hands on why he is acting out, try to find out before drawing conclusions.
BE HIS ANALYTICAL CRITIQUE
In life, as much as people hate to hear the truth, they need it to arrive at a better conclusion on certain areas of their life. For every step a man makes, he consults at least two (2) to three (3) friends to hear what they have to say about a particular issue.
Whenever your man comes to you with an idea he wants to pursue, even if you think it’s a crazy one, relay it to him in a way that would make him see reasons without hurting his ego. Give him substantial reasons why you think it ”may” not come to fruition and see how your man would always carry you along on vital issues that would require consultation.
UNDERSTANDING HIM CAN AS WELL BE THE KEY TO A FRUITFUL RELATIONSHIP
One thing that kills a relationship is the inability of both parties to try to understand and adapt to each other.
Love brought the two of you together, but only adaptation and understanding can keep the relationship going.
Most ladies want a fairy tale relationship with a happy ending. It is not bad to wish for a fairy tale relationship, but this is reality where fairy tale holds no water.
If your man is an actor, you should understand that women would definitely flock around him. If he is a doctor, you should understand that some female patients and nurses would want to hit on him.
As much as he would want to control these things, it is not going to be an easy one. So learn to understand his daily life and trust him to not take your understanding nature for granted.
LEARN TO FORGIVE AND FORGET TO ACHIEVE A FRUITFUL RELATIONSHIP
Perfection from a human being is over rated. For your relationship to work out, you have to learn to forgive and forget. As difficult as it sounds, it is a vital tool which shows strength from you.
If your partner commits an offence for which you know it would be difficult to forgive, don’t just pretend and act like you are okay with it.
Let him see and feel how hurt you are by his actions, then heal before you move on.
Because once that chapter is closed, it should be a totally buried one which should not be re-visited.
Many girls make the mistake of being in a shell with their partner all in a bid to make him see them as devoted, caring and loving. But that is not a wise step to make a relationship fruitful.
Before your partner got involved with you, there must be something about you that captivated him. So keep chasing your goals, give yourself attention as much as you would the relationship, don’t let your dreams and goals of becoming a better you die because of the relationship, because your partner would see other women who are making strides to become better and be drawn to them.
So why not be the total package that he would use as a yard stick for his kind of woman.
ENCOURAGEMENT PLAYS A ROLE IN A FRUITFUL RELATIONSHIP
Men would not want their ego hurt so they tend to hide their weakness, fears and pains. But for your relationship to be fruitful, show him that with you, being vulnerable is not too bad a thing.
When he relays his fears to you, or when he is being skeptical over an issue and lets you on, encourage him, be his support system.
Let him know and feel that you would always back him up as much as you can.
Most women think men don’t fancy compliments because compliments ”are for women”. Complimenting your man, brings out the baby in him. Compliment him and see how his face would lighten up.
Tell him how cute he is, how you would choose him over again if there is a next world, how you love the fact that he makes goals for himself and works hard to bring them to fruition then see how he would love you more because compliments work like magic.
TIME AND SPACE IS VITAL FOR A FRUITFUL RELATIONSHIP
There are days we all just want some time and space to ourselves without anyone disturbing our moment of peace.
Study your man, know when he requires that time and space to himself, even if you feel its awkward, respect his decision and when he is done with his alone time, he would come around.
APPLY MAGIC WORDS IF YOU WANT A FRUITFUL RELATIONSHIP
Some women don’t recognize the fact that there are words which can work magic in their relationship. These words are ”Thank you, I am sorry and I love you”.
As common as they sound, they go a long way in making your relationship a fruitful one. When your man does something for you, as much as you feel entitled to it, still say thank you because it shows that you appreciate his show of love.
When you know within you that you have wronged him, it takes nothing out of you to apologize. You don’t have to give a whole speech when apologizing. A simple I am sorry that is sincere would suffice.
Lastly, men love to hear you tell them of how much you love them as much as you would love him to tell you same. Even if you show it, still say it to him that you love him as much as you can.
SPEAK YOUR MIND
Walking on egg shells in a relationship would not help in making it fruitful.
As much as you would love to satisfy your man, don’t make the mistake of bottling up your emotions, thoughts or pains. Releasing them would help you feel relieved and make your relationship stronger.
But as much as you choose to speak your mind, try to be civilized about it so as not to say things you would end up regretting.
Because as much as the message would be passed the hurtful words can’t and never will be retracted.
Being romantic should not be left for your partner alone. Learn to take him out once in a while, buy him gifts even when he is not celebrating, let him feel that he is not the only one into you.
You can also organize dinner dates. It doesn’t have to be expensive. Just prepare a special dinner at home, decorate the room with sweet smelling candles and see how the night flows with love.
Prior to meeting you, your man had friends he relates with just as he does his family and may also consider them one.
Even if you don’t like his friends, look for a better way to relay it to him. Not by frowning when they come around or by portraying funny attitudes such as hissing or getting angry at everything they do while in your man’s place.
To cap it all, make sure your partner is deserving of your love too. Don’t fall into the trap of trying to please one who is not into you because it may not end well.
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